A bit about me
During the winter of 2013 into the spring of 2014 I had the privilege of helping to look after my dad as his health deteriorated through Parkinson’s and subsequently dementia. In March 2015, when I visited Dad at the undertakers a few days after he had taken his last breath, to kiss him and say goodbye to him when he was lying in his coffin, his immense power and presence was behind me and took over the room. He said: You know that’s not me any more, don’t you.
A few weeks later I had the most moving dream I ever recall having. In that dream, I was the one that was dying. I was lying next to Dad, my head on his shoulder, both of us peaceful in our assurance that everything was right, everything was as it should be, and everything was beautiful. There was nothing but a deep and indescribable feeling of pure love and bright light around us. I awoke with tears streaming down my face.
The connection between personal transformation guidance and soul midwifery
Skip a few years, and I found myself in the immensely privileged position of holding space for and guiding living beings of all ages from all over the world as they transcended some of their deeper suppressed emotions and trauma, and evolved, ascended, unfolded, expanded into more of their potential as human beings. I am deeply humbled by many of the comments and feedback that I’ve received from the beautiful people I’ve worked. I, too, have done and continue to do the inner work, clearing deeper emotional wounds and ancestral baggage.
In 2023, I was guided to soul midwifery, and bringing love, peace and honour to the death and dying process. I have since qualified as a soul midwife, and am also an active Daisy Chain member of Pushing up the Daisies. Pushing up the Daisies enlightened me greatly about the rights and options we have in Scotland for ourselves and our loved ones after they have taken their last breath. While I couldn’t change Dad’s experience, I could be – and am – much informed and prepared for my mum’s last breath and beyond. I currently look after my mum as she has dementia.
I now serve the living and the dying with compassion, dignity, discretion, acceptance, and love. As people go through the dying process, their soul wounds can arise and as they experience pain, and/or lose their inhibitions, these wounds can come out as emotional projections onto loved ones. Soul wounds are deep, suppressed, emotions. We all have them. When we’re not conscious of them, they can come out as anger, frustration, grief, sadness, fear, pain, shame, distress, and so on. They are not to be taken personally; they are to be allowed and acknowledged with love and compassion. Our loved ones are clearing their emotional slate before their soul continues its journey beyond this life.
What continues to be important to me is working with people through life so that they have less soul sounds and emotional trauma burdening their beautiful dying process. The sooner we heal from and transcend our lower vibrational shadow aspects, wounds, and traumas, the lighter we are, and the more able we are to savour life and feel harmony within.
I am humbled and in awe that I have found myself on such a beautiful, pure and meaningful path, a path of service, a path of healing, a path of transition and transformation.
Inner work can be confronting and uncomfortable, but it is the most liberating gift you can give yourself. And death and dying are not to be feared. We are born, and we die. We cannot continue celebrating one and denying or avoiding the other. I am honoured to be a part of the changing, shifting conversation, to be bringing death to life, and to be helping to normalise speaking openly about death, dying and beyond.